I’m Conrad Deas. I write books about the messy, hilarious, and deeply meaningful moments that make us human—from building an intentional marriage to finding peace right where you are.
Author of Husband On Purpose & Smile When You Poop
Finding joy, humility, and peace in life’s most unglamorous moments.
"A brilliantly funny and deeply liberating exploration of why taking ourselves too seriously is ruining our joy."
"We spend so much time pretending everything is buttoned up. My goal is to write about what happens when you let your breath out and tell the truth."
— Conrad
Whether you want to deepen your marriage, unburden your mind with gut-honest humor, or sharpen your creative edge—there’s a page here for you.
The unapologetic guide to letting go of pretense.
Life is messy, unpredictable, and rarely matches the curated highlights on our screens. This book is a witty, surprisingly heartfelt permission slip to embrace our unglamorous moments, stop taking our egos so seriously, and find authentic peace.
A guide to intentional love, depth, and partnership.
Too many marriages drift on autopilot until connection slowly fades into routine. Husband On Purpose is a grounded, vulnerable call to men to wake up, show up with intent, and actively cultivate a marriage where both partners thrive.
Break creative blocks & shift perspectives instantly.
A toolkit of 90 sharp, lateral vantage points designed for writers, thinkers, and problem solvers. When you feel stuck looking at a problem from the usual angle, this system gives you 90 new doors to walk through.
"The most transformative moments in our lives rarely happen in pristine conference rooms. They happen around kitchen tables, after tough arguments, and during quiet moments of honest laughter."
Conrad Deas
Author, Husband, & Essayist
I didn’t start writing because I had all the answers. I started writing because I realized how tired everyone was of pretending they did.
When you look at marriage, we’re flooded with either fairy-tale romanticism or bitter punchlines. Husband On Purpose was born out of my conviction that marriage can be rich, intimate, and thrilling—if you treat it as an intentional craft rather than a background circumstance.
And Smile When You Poop? That comes from the other side of the coin: learning not to worship our own egos. When you can laugh at the absurd, awkward reality of having a human body and making human mistakes, shame loses its grip on you.
Everything I publish, speak about, and build rests on three unshakeable foundations.
Drifting is easy; showing up on purpose takes grit. We examine the micro-decisions and daily commitments that transform relationships and personal discipline from passive hopes into lived reality.
Pretending to have it all together is exhausting. We celebrate the messy, imperfect, and humorous realities of being a real human being living in an imperfect world with other imperfect humans.
Theory is cheap. Every essay, book chapter, and perspective tool is designed to be lived out—at the dinner table, in your private journal, or in the very next conversation you have.
You don’t have to take my word for it. You can dive into the standalone digital edition of Chapter 1 of Smile When You Poop or read the complete introduction right now.
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Short thoughts on intentional love, creative persistence, and finding humor in ordinary days.
Why scheduled micro-moments of eye contact and listening beat grand anniversary gestures for lasting intimacy.
How disarming your own defensiveness opens the door to deeper relationships, lighter days, and genuine self-worth.
Reflections on overcoming perfectionism, getting words onto the page, and the discipline of showing up at the keyboard.
Whether you're looking for your next book, want to bring a keynote or workshop to your community, or simply want to say hello—I'd love to hear from you.